The Duggars

So the Duggars have been in the news a lot lately they are a Homeschooling and Christian family and to many people they represent what homeschooling and being a Christian is like. Since the Duggars have been in the news more I have been approached more than once about our choice to homeschool Little T. People have assumed that since I plan to home school and am a Christian then I must fall under the same umbrella that they do. However that is the farthest from the truth. While there are some families that fall under the same umbrella as the Duggars most of us do not and should not be judged as if we do.  However since they are such a hot topic right now I am going to talk about some of the topics that have been brought up as of late to the best of my knowledge

So lets start with the biggest issue and the 'main' issue, the oldest boys involvement in sexually deviant acts. I am wording it as sexually deviant acts because not all of the acts have come to light and to what extent, no matter what it was not good or right. Since I do not know what all happened I can not and will not pass judgement but I do hope and pray that justice will or has been served. The reason that I say we do not know the whole story is that there that is one thing experts, non media, seem to agree on, we do not have the whole story.

The area that I would like to address is how we need to be careful with what advice and who we choose to be our leaders. Our kids look to us, their parents, to know who to trust and who listen to about our morals. When those people or leaders teach or influence our children in ways that go against our morals and beliefs then we must act and protect our children by getting them away from that influence and reteaching them and counseling them in what is right. However even before it gets to that point we as parents must choose those around our kids. We must also be willing to stand up when we feel our children might be in danger. Sometimes this means seeking advice from those we spiritually can trust out side of our main church.

The other issue I would like to address is education. I completely understand not wanting to teach sex education at a young age but some education or guidelines to help prevent sexual assault on our kids. Even if do not want to teach them why a parent can establish rules for their kids that will keep them safe. Some of the rules we have are no secrets, no one touches your private area, and to tell an adult if anyone ever touches you.  I will talk more about some of our rules later.

My prayers go out to the all those involved in this and any other act of sexual assault.